I read an article today in The New York Times entitled "The T.M.I. Pregnancy". It was written by the prospective grandmother, who had accompanied her daughter-in-law to each ultrasound. This excerpt sums up the premise of the article perfectly:
"Prenatal science has helped a lot people and people-to-be. But just because a patient can know something, must she? There’s so much information available now. Pregnancy is treated like a nine-month illness cured by childbirth. Odds are in this baby’s favor, yet every sonogram adds something scary to the pot. What is one of the most joyous times of life has turned into something ominous and fraught, loaded with the potential to go wrong."
I am not the first to remark that in this age of communication, information and technology, one of the casualties is wonder. There is a depth behind all things that cannot be broken down into something mathematically measurable. I am all for science and modern medicine, of course! But, let's not overshadow the miraculous with the facts of science. Let's not lose sight of the magic.
This is one of the main reasons I focus part of my practice on working with pregnant moms. As an Inner Space Techniques practitioner (meditation-based regression therapist), I have worked with so many people who had a difficult time in the womb, or a difficult babyhood, a difficult pregnancy, a difficult birth (either mother or child), a traumatic c-section, a miscarriage, a termination. So much trauma, and so much of it unneccessary, or preventable. I want to help pregnant moms and their babies bask in and be nourished by the awe-inspiring spiritual light that surrounds them, to help them commune with one another and delight in their incredibly special bond.
The work that I do with pregnant women supports the mom and fosters the intimate bond between her and her child. I help her explore the miracle unfolding within her, to feel and bond with the presence of her baby, to feel the qualities within herself that she will bring forward as a mother, and as the pregnancy progresses, help her to feel the natural wisdom and ability she posseses to go through the birth itself. I create space for the light surrounding the pregnancy to hold, support and nourish her.
I am not a doctor, I am a guide of inner realms. This is my specialty. I help people explore themselves on the inside. Help them heal trauma. Help them connect to their essence. Help them realize their aspirations. And in the case of pregnant moms, help them experience the non-medically-measurable sides of the pregnancy.
How can we foster this in our hospitals, our homes, our friendships, our society? Really, by being present. If you are pregnant, take time to be present with yourself. Sit quietly. Feel your baby. Feel the changes in your body. (I know, sometimes you feel like hell or as though an alien has invaded you. But there's a mysterious light there as well, that you can open to and rest on). And for those of us who aren't pregnant - be with each other. Look into eyes. Ask a question. Hold a hand. Be still. Let yourself feel what you feel.
Pregnancy is a magical time. Perhaps the most wondrous, fulfilling and spiritually nourishing time of a woman's life. A 24/7, 9-month, beautiful, crazy, messy, sacred miracle. Let's celebrate that.
Alison Montgomery is an Inner Space Techniques practitioner in the San Francisco Bay Area. Contact Alison for an appointment on 347.893.8333 or email@example.com. If you are outside Northern California, contact Alison for a referral to a practitioner in your area.