This week I worked with a mom who has a 3-week old baby. An ADORABLE baby. Who fell into a delicious, tiny, perfect puddle of sleep in my arms and melted me into deliciousness with her.
But getting on to my topic - today I want to talk about what I saw energetically after this particular momma's c-section. I want to make it clear that I fully support every mother's birth plan and I applaud the medical teams that support birth. C-section is often a necessary and life-saving option. This blog is not a judgement in any way, what I am aiming to do is to illustrate a possible energetic impact of c-section, and what to do / how to help with recovery.
This mom had a 50 hour labor. She was exhausted. Baby too. Medically, the c-section was necessary. Baby is doing really well now, with mom recovering slowly. Here is what happened in her session with me the other day:
Mom lay down on a comfortable pad on the floor, pillows under her head and knees, tucked under a blanket, with her eyes closed. I sat beside her on the floor, and we tuned in for several minutes. A soft, supportive and nurturing spiritual presence landed.
What was immediately clear to me was that the mom's energy felt thin, depleted and brittle, and that the spiritual presence was fortifying and replenishing her etheric body (aka energy body, prana, chi, life force). As the mom started to relax and to let go, in a quiet voice she said she realized that she had been bracing since the birth, holding on tight just trying to get through each day. As she lay there, deeply letting go and receiving spiritual light, her tension began to dissolve.
It was also clear that the etheric around her abdomen felt shocked, wounded and violated from the operation. To me, it felt like there had been an explosion in the energy of her abdomen. As I held space for the spiritual presence to work on her, I could feel layers of her etheric body being penetrated with light, bringing a calming, softening and healing effect. It was as though the explosion was being gently de-exploded, and a soothing, smoothing, nurturing effect happening. As the process unfolded, a part of her emerged that felt very solid, calm and wise. Like a momma panther, warm, grounded and strong, She felt as though she could really rest on this part of herself, and it was also helping with the energetic rearrangements and reinforcement, bringing her energy and emotions back into balance.
Another thing that was very clear was that her whole being - body, mind soul, subtle bodies, had been preparing to deliver her baby. The massive organic will required to push a child through the birth canal and into the world had been very much engaged. This mom's consciousness and her entire energy body were "on line", going to war, like a warrior engaged in battle. Everything was geared towards this massive project, then suddenly, right in the middle, not only was that force overridden, other people's will impacted the course, shut off her own pathway, and chained her to theirs. It was an intense experience for her belly!
I know, this does not make sense to the rational mind. Of course the c-section was a life-saving necessity. It is also true that to this momma's belly, the seat of her sense of power and vitality, it was a huge shock and derailment. Instead of being empowered and going through the initiation process she was engaged in, she was deeply wounded and her will derailed. In the ordinary world, baby and mom were saved by modern medicine - YAY and WHEW!!!! At a non-mind energetic level, her belly felt thwarted, wounded and violated.
We started to presence the shock, rage, grief, betrayal and hopelessness in this mom's energy body, and a deep, full sense of calm and peace imbued the space. We stayed like that for another 20 minutes or so, soaking in the hushed serenity, the healing light, the peace, allowing healing and release.
Afterwards, I wondered about the discrepancy between what the belly (the primal part of a person) experienced and wanted, and what was absolutely necessary for the mom and baby to be well and safe. It made me think about c-section and postpartum depression.
Could some epidsodes of postpartum depression be due to all those huge feelings not being acknowledged, or given space to be felt?
If you have a c-section, or really if you are involved in pregnancy and birth in any way (including vaginal birth, miscarriage and termination), there is the healing that needs to happen on the physical level, and there is also significant healing that needs to happen on the energetic and emotional levels.
I know what I have written here doesn't necessarily make sense to the rational mind. But we are more than our conscious mind, and the sooner we acknowledge and allow the feelings that go along with these huge experiences, the faster healing and integration and emotional balance will come.
After giving birth, having a c-section, a termination or miscarriage I would highly recommend:
- REST (it should go without saying, but please don't underestimate the need for rest in your healing).
- Warmth - keep the house warm, keep your body warm, dress in layers and have blankets handy.
- SUPPORT from friends, family, partner, let people do everything for you for a while.
- When you are ready, have someone (or some people) hold space for you while you talk about your birth experience.
- Let yourself feel what you feel, even if it doesn't make sense to your mind.
- Book some energetic healing to help your energy body and emotional body recover (Reiki, Inner Space Techniques, etc).
- Include more foods like soups, stews and vegetable juices - easy to digest super nourishment.
In future posts I will also talk about traditional treatments like hot rocks and moxibustion to help the body and life force recover from birth and related experiences.
Please feel free to share your own experiences, or email me to talk more :)